“Dulha Mian aa rahey Hain ” ,
There was giggling and hul Chul everywhere.
It was Karachi’s Gulabi winter and a Couple of weeks left in my Shadi and the family was waiting for this date as Akmal Sahab supposed to arrive Karachi.My brothers got married within an year gap and he wasn’t there, I also didnt want him to come so I can enjoy those weddings comfortably as when people find an engaged or a nikahfied couple in a gathering, they focus more on them instead of Bride and Groom .
My brothers went to receive him from the Airport and now talking about the happenings, I was curious to know everything ( too bad there was no smart phones, face time , or camera phone .only button Wala phone ). My Amma and bhabies were planning a dawat menu which supposed to be on the first weekend after arrival then we got to know as per the family tradition Dulha doesn’t visit his in-laws before Marriage and instead They invited our family over for meet n greet and I was like “Ye kia? (Dil key Armaan aansoon main bhey gaye ). It was the only chance if meet up in the hustle bustle of wedding and somewhere inside I had innocent plans of showing my cooking skills (Although that time even if I served him kerwey Kareley he would loved it but Uswaqt ye Kon sochta Hai).
After dawat cancellation , I felt that my family got a bit relaxed as with the excitement there was a little anxiety for the special protocol of first dawat of damaad.
I guess there is always an unseen pressure of giving a damaad and in laws the right protocol so things would go well.Things were good in my case but I saw many cases where little happy occasions get ruined and smiling faces got darker just because Dammad Sahab didn’t get the attention he was expecting or his family created issues and ruin the peace for this reason.
We need to change this negativity,We need to educate our sons that Yes, you deserve the respect but there is a differnce between the respect and seeking the attention .Making faces and isolating yourself at in gathering is kind of an attitude suits to some toddler but not on a grown up man. We have to make it a norm that as the girl is expected to give respect and love to her in-laws ,it goes the same for the guy.Thats the only way to eliminate the nagative vibes from this Happy Occasion.
Did you ever come across that kind of Damaad?
There was giggling and hul Chul everywhere.
It was Karachi’s Gulabi winter and a Couple of weeks left in my Shadi and the family was waiting for this date as Akmal Sahab supposed to arrive Karachi.My brothers got married within an year gap and he wasn’t there, I also didnt want him to come so I can enjoy those weddings comfortably as when people find an engaged or a nikahfied couple in a gathering, they focus more on them instead of Bride and Groom .
My brothers went to receive him from the Airport and now talking about the happenings, I was curious to know everything ( too bad there was no smart phones, face time , or camera phone .only button Wala phone ). My Amma and bhabies were planning a dawat menu which supposed to be on the first weekend after arrival then we got to know as per the family tradition Dulha doesn’t visit his in-laws before Marriage and instead They invited our family over for meet n greet and I was like “Ye kia? (Dil key Armaan aansoon main bhey gaye ). It was the only chance if meet up in the hustle bustle of wedding and somewhere inside I had innocent plans of showing my cooking skills (Although that time even if I served him kerwey Kareley he would loved it but Uswaqt ye Kon sochta Hai).
After dawat cancellation , I felt that my family got a bit relaxed as with the excitement there was a little anxiety for the special protocol of first dawat of damaad.
I guess there is always an unseen pressure of giving a damaad and in laws the right protocol so things would go well.Things were good in my case but I saw many cases where little happy occasions get ruined and smiling faces got darker just because Dammad Sahab didn’t get the attention he was expecting or his family created issues and ruin the peace for this reason.
We need to change this negativity,We need to educate our sons that Yes, you deserve the respect but there is a differnce between the respect and seeking the attention .Making faces and isolating yourself at in gathering is kind of an attitude suits to some toddler but not on a grown up man. We have to make it a norm that as the girl is expected to give respect and love to her in-laws ,it goes the same for the guy.Thats the only way to eliminate the nagative vibes from this Happy Occasion.
Did you ever come across that kind of Damaad?
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