Shadi related Negative Vibes – Part 1
Rishtedaron key Waswasey!
سنو تمہارے سسرال والوں نے عیدی کیوں نہیں بھیجی؟
This was the question I was asked from my very near relative aunty and 19 years old newly engaged me was like confused for a moment about what to reply.
Is it something matters? And if yes isn’t the matter of the two families like it’s none of her business and why is she interrogating me like this? It’s not like I am a rebel and having a love marriage( even though there’s nothing wrong in that too).
There was a reason, I replied, it was the first Eid after my Mother-in-law passed away so they were not having the same celebration( Not discussing here if it is right or wrong but yes it is in our culture)
Achaa! she nodded giving some suspicious expressions.
It was might be just a Chaska for her but it left me with many thoughts.
Is it something based on which people judge how your susral is?
Is it a thing if you don’t get means you have no importance and you will not be treated well.
Will there be more issues later?
Luckily my family wasn’t much in those things.Yes I was excited like any other girl and thinking about Eid gifts made me feel good but I didn’t grow up with the mentality that the relationships are based on how much both parties are spending.
Although we didn’t meet, I was In touch with my husband to be and could felt his love for his Mom and knew the fact how much he missed not being with her at her last moments. Talking about Eid and eidi was sure sounds mean that time.
What happened later? There were Eids and there were eidies and there were many joys but if I would consider that Aunty’s thought and made it an issue, things would be different.
These rishtedaron key waswasey screw up the relationships.
Their ajeeb ajeeb questions and negativity ruin the peace.
Log bhut tez lag rahey Hain! ( Jesey aap to Allah Mian ki gayen Hain)
Jahez main kia aaya? ( Kun bhaee Kia kerna Hai?)
Falaan ki us Baat ka kia matlab tha? (Aag na lagayen plz)
Zewar Kuch halka Hai (Toba)
When two families are getting along please refrain to pass your judgements & if you’re the one getting into relationship use your own wisdom, fitna phelaney walon sey door rahen.
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Rishtedaron key Waswasey!
سنو تمہارے سسرال والوں نے عیدی کیوں نہیں بھیجی؟
This was the question I was asked from my very near relative aunty and 19 years old newly engaged me was like confused for a moment about what to reply.
Is it something matters? And if yes isn’t the matter of the two families like it’s none of her business and why is she interrogating me like this? It’s not like I am a rebel and having a love marriage( even though there’s nothing wrong in that too).
There was a reason, I replied, it was the first Eid after my Mother-in-law passed away so they were not having the same celebration( Not discussing here if it is right or wrong but yes it is in our culture)
Achaa! she nodded giving some suspicious expressions.
It was might be just a Chaska for her but it left me with many thoughts.
Is it something based on which people judge how your susral is?
Is it a thing if you don’t get means you have no importance and you will not be treated well.
Will there be more issues later?
Luckily my family wasn’t much in those things.Yes I was excited like any other girl and thinking about Eid gifts made me feel good but I didn’t grow up with the mentality that the relationships are based on how much both parties are spending.
Although we didn’t meet, I was In touch with my husband to be and could felt his love for his Mom and knew the fact how much he missed not being with her at her last moments. Talking about Eid and eidi was sure sounds mean that time.
What happened later? There were Eids and there were eidies and there were many joys but if I would consider that Aunty’s thought and made it an issue, things would be different.
These rishtedaron key waswasey screw up the relationships.
Their ajeeb ajeeb questions and negativity ruin the peace.
Log bhut tez lag rahey Hain! ( Jesey aap to Allah Mian ki gayen Hain)
Jahez main kia aaya? ( Kun bhaee Kia kerna Hai?)
Falaan ki us Baat ka kia matlab tha? (Aag na lagayen plz)
Zewar Kuch halka Hai (Toba)
When two families are getting along please refrain to pass your judgements & if you’re the one getting into relationship use your own wisdom, fitna phelaney walon sey door rahen.
Have you ever experienced something similar?
*
Share if you agree & want to create awareness
*
Follow me on Instagram
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