It was our first meeting with my son’s high school teachers. when his science teacher placed the latest class report of his tests, class average and the rising graph in front of us. Our faces got a sudden glow and a shiny smile bloomed automatically.
He had no concerns and so as we, which was obvious from our happiness but then The teacher said “you know this is fine, it’s good for now and I know these grades and marks look so cute but now there is one thing you should be looking for and taken care of”, what? We both were confused, thinking if there are no behaviour or academic issues what it could be? “Anxiety”, he replied. What really? I busted into laugh inside imaging my boy binge-watching Ertugrul and playing on his cell phone but I couldn’t express it in front of his teacher who continued to talk “Actually if a kid is taking too much stress and studying late nights in fear of these quizzes it would be unhealthy and could result in anxiety”.I smiled don’t worry he isn’t doing anything like that and actually I feel anxiety sometimes when I don’t find him doing study and get a reply I’ve done it at school already. The teacher was relieved “That’s perfect don’t worry then”.
While coming back and laughing about this anxiety issue I thought about my high school time and grades. His teacher’s reminder actually opened a door of memories & I realized not all of those memories are pleasant .If I look behind today ,yes there wasn’t that much pressure but it felt a lot that time. I remember those two chemistry practicals of Morality and Solubility were a nightmare for me and on exam day I got one of them. Also about how much I used to hate that bullet in my physics numerals that came into context to solve the equations of velocity, That sine, cosine Integration and derivation which made us crazy to find the solution. Yes, we woke up at night and lost appetite when thinking about exams & our admissions at professional colleges.
My four years of Engineering University were full of Anxiety and Stress but I admit those high school years were the toughest, May be not because of the studies but because of the delicate teen period when your mind and body going through a lot, not because of stress but because of not knowing how to handle the stress and not having a proper Guidance &: counseling.
Anxiety does exist in teens but just because we became adults and then parents, we forget our time & don’t think about it. Also, the race of marks, grades , competition and comparisons make us a bit selfish that we actually don’t want to consider it.
Like every other student, my kids also have their strengths and weaknesses but I am actually thankful to his teacher for the reminder. It was a reminder that we shouldn’t be a part of the race. Whatever our kids choose to do academically we should make it easier by not imposing our desires and standards on them but by helping and supporting them. We should guide them but shouldn’t burden them with pressure and stress as at the end we don’t need depressed robots but Happy humans making the world a better place.
#AnxietyInTeens
#khayalbysaba
He had no concerns and so as we, which was obvious from our happiness but then The teacher said “you know this is fine, it’s good for now and I know these grades and marks look so cute but now there is one thing you should be looking for and taken care of”, what? We both were confused, thinking if there are no behaviour or academic issues what it could be? “Anxiety”, he replied. What really? I busted into laugh inside imaging my boy binge-watching Ertugrul and playing on his cell phone but I couldn’t express it in front of his teacher who continued to talk “Actually if a kid is taking too much stress and studying late nights in fear of these quizzes it would be unhealthy and could result in anxiety”.I smiled don’t worry he isn’t doing anything like that and actually I feel anxiety sometimes when I don’t find him doing study and get a reply I’ve done it at school already. The teacher was relieved “That’s perfect don’t worry then”.
While coming back and laughing about this anxiety issue I thought about my high school time and grades. His teacher’s reminder actually opened a door of memories & I realized not all of those memories are pleasant .If I look behind today ,yes there wasn’t that much pressure but it felt a lot that time. I remember those two chemistry practicals of Morality and Solubility were a nightmare for me and on exam day I got one of them. Also about how much I used to hate that bullet in my physics numerals that came into context to solve the equations of velocity, That sine, cosine Integration and derivation which made us crazy to find the solution. Yes, we woke up at night and lost appetite when thinking about exams & our admissions at professional colleges.
My four years of Engineering University were full of Anxiety and Stress but I admit those high school years were the toughest, May be not because of the studies but because of the delicate teen period when your mind and body going through a lot, not because of stress but because of not knowing how to handle the stress and not having a proper Guidance &: counseling.
Anxiety does exist in teens but just because we became adults and then parents, we forget our time & don’t think about it. Also, the race of marks, grades , competition and comparisons make us a bit selfish that we actually don’t want to consider it.
Like every other student, my kids also have their strengths and weaknesses but I am actually thankful to his teacher for the reminder. It was a reminder that we shouldn’t be a part of the race. Whatever our kids choose to do academically we should make it easier by not imposing our desires and standards on them but by helping and supporting them. We should guide them but shouldn’t burden them with pressure and stress as at the end we don’t need depressed robots but Happy humans making the world a better place.
#AnxietyInTeens
#khayalbysaba
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