KMKT: To all new couples stepping into a new life!
I wish I could sit down with Sharjeena and Mustafa and reassure them that everything they are experiencing is normal and part of this phase of life.
Their story is relatable and brings so many memories of starting life in a new country and dealing with new relationships and responsibilities, alongside homesickness, loneliness, and pregnancy complications.
I want to tell all the new couples that after having a wedding festivities and honeymoon period days are a bit tough, You have to transition back to practical life and “Create” your “Happily ever after” on your own. There are some truth bombs & challenges to navigate.
💣It needs time and effort to add a new person to your life and figure out how to share everything while managing new relationships.
💣For many girls, leaving their family and starting fresh in a new home & new people can bring feelings of homesickness & pressure to meet expectations.
💣The physical and hormonal changes of motherhood can make this even harder and you are 24/7 on an emotional roller coaster.
💣 For men, it’s no longer a bachelor life. Many work long hours as they begin their careers, filled with hopes, dreams & energy, striving to provide for their growing families (and yes, diapers and milk are expensive!).
💣Expecting Mom needs comfort as well, they may feel overwhelmed and need extra attention and care. If these feelings aren’t addressed carefully, it can lead to chaos.
What to do?
✔️Having supportive family members can help a lot. Instead of scolding Mustafa for not taking care of Sharjeena, it would be better for the family to talk with them and explain that their struggles as new partners and parents are normal.
✔️Rather than insisting Sharjeena live with them, inviting her for a short break could give her a chance to relax.
✔️Simple gestures, like bringing her favourite food, and spending some time with her can also help(and of course Mustafa should understand this too)
✔️On the other hand, Sharjeena should understand that Mustafa is now working hard at a real job, which is what she wants him to do. As they begin to afford better things, it’s unrealistic to say they can be happy without comforts like AC. His efforts to provide for their needs also show that he cares.
I believe we don’t do real talks with our kids when they are starting their new journey,
young couples could benefit from workshops or therapy that teaches them
what to expect from Marriage & during this transitional time. That kind of support can help them navigate the challenges of practical life and parenthood together.
What do you think?
Quratul ain Saba
khayalbysaba
