*Toddler Tantrums*
Despite all the experience, reading , researching and working hard while putting all my efforts with kids ,Toddler tantrums are as common in my household as like any other home, but guess what because I Love & Care so much,I completely IGNORE ,These little humans are way too intelligent then we could think ,Once they know the way they can blackmail parents they use it as a weapon for everything they want to do or anything they want to have.
When my daughter was about to 2 years, I was struggling how to stop her feed because every night when I tried she started to cry on the top of her lungs, That time our paediatrician suggested the same, “She is way too smart”, she said, “she knows she is with you and when she will cry she will get it, so for one night give her to her father and do not respond to her cry”, And yes it was just one night and then things were settled down.
When my little one throws a tantrum, I either start looking busy in some chore or leave the place and go to other room, He usually try to grab an attention by making different kind of horrible sounds but at the end he understands that it couldn’t work ,so slowly and gradually while taking care of his little ego he peaks in and try to start a different conversation like Bhai did that or Aapi did that (referring his elder siblings) or talk about his favourite TV show or any other random stuff ,And then it is time to talk to him and let him feel inclusive.
My philosophy is that if a kid asks you about something and you think it is fine, consider the request, but once you say “No” , Please stick to it ,do not ever fulfill a desire just because a child is crying hard or lying down on the floor,That way it will make them think that this is a usual and normal way to get something and they will always continue this practice and it will gradually change into different ways as they will grow up like screaming, whining ,kicking ,hitting or showing aggression.
Love them but shape them
<3
Khayal by Saba
Despite all the experience, reading , researching and working hard while putting all my efforts with kids ,Toddler tantrums are as common in my household as like any other home, but guess what because I Love & Care so much,I completely IGNORE ,These little humans are way too intelligent then we could think ,Once they know the way they can blackmail parents they use it as a weapon for everything they want to do or anything they want to have.
When my daughter was about to 2 years, I was struggling how to stop her feed because every night when I tried she started to cry on the top of her lungs, That time our paediatrician suggested the same, “She is way too smart”, she said, “she knows she is with you and when she will cry she will get it, so for one night give her to her father and do not respond to her cry”, And yes it was just one night and then things were settled down.
When my little one throws a tantrum, I either start looking busy in some chore or leave the place and go to other room, He usually try to grab an attention by making different kind of horrible sounds but at the end he understands that it couldn’t work ,so slowly and gradually while taking care of his little ego he peaks in and try to start a different conversation like Bhai did that or Aapi did that (referring his elder siblings) or talk about his favourite TV show or any other random stuff ,And then it is time to talk to him and let him feel inclusive.
My philosophy is that if a kid asks you about something and you think it is fine, consider the request, but once you say “No” , Please stick to it ,do not ever fulfill a desire just because a child is crying hard or lying down on the floor,That way it will make them think that this is a usual and normal way to get something and they will always continue this practice and it will gradually change into different ways as they will grow up like screaming, whining ,kicking ,hitting or showing aggression.
Love them but shape them
<3
Khayal by Saba
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